What Are Your Employees Thinking?

Cathie Leimbach • June 21, 2022

How many times have you said, “I wish I knew what they were thinking”? Despite having the ability to make this wish come true, most of us continue to ‘wish’ instead of taking action. A simple question such as “How did you decide to do the job that way?”, would tell us what they were thinking.  

Sometimes, our frustrated ‘what was he thinking’ is the result of an employee making mistakes. At other times, we are commenting on the unique and effective approach they took. When we respond to either situation with an interest in truly understanding what influenced their actions, we build rapport with our employees and help them feel they and their ideas matter to us. We also learn what they were thinking.

When talking with an employee who has made a mistake we might ask:

  1. “What result are you wanting to get?”
  2. “How well does this result match up with what you wanted?” 
  3. “What happened that you didn’t get the result you wanted?”  “What steps did you take when doing the job?”
  4. “What can you do differently next time?” (If they don’t know how to correct the mistake, provide additional training or tools to equip them to be successful.)


When talking with someone who achieved good results in a unique way, we might ask:

  1. I noticed that you did that task differently than how you were trained, but you got the results we wanted. “Why did you do it that way?”
  2. “What are the benefits of your approach?”
  3. “What are the possible pitfalls of your approach?”

Thank them for thinking of different approaches. Verbally clarify whether they may continue doing the task their way or, if due to factors such as unacceptable risks or legal compliance, they have to follow the standard procedure.  


Both of these approaches satisfy your wish to know what your employees are thinking. In one situation you are asking the employee to evaluate their own work and to be conscious of the steps they are taking to achieve results. You are also encouraging them to problem solve. In the other, you are rewarding initiative and encouraging creative thinking while also ensuring compliance with necessary parameters. In both, you are guiding employees to achieve quality results and respecting them as valuable human beings.

The next time you are wishing you knew what an employee is thinking, make your wish come true. Ask an open-ended question, listen carefully to the answer, use follow-up questions to clarify their response, and clearly state appropriate actions going forward.  

Performance Conversations: Clarity Is Kindness

By Cathie Leimbach • July 7, 2026
Most leaders want better performance. They want employees who take ownership, meet expectations, solve problems, and continue growing. Yet many leaders seldom initiate performance conversations – and when they do, it doesn’t go well. Leaders often hesitate because they fear discouraging people. Employees, meanwhile, don't know if they are missing the target. This can be costly. Research highlighted in McKinsey's Courageous Conversations article found that organizations with strong performance practices are four times more likely to outperform their peers. Yet fewer than one-third of employees believe performance reviews actually help them improve. The problem is not just a lack of performance conversations. It's a lack of clarity. The article points to a simple but powerful distinction: separate the hardware of performance from the software of performance. The hardware includes facts, goals, KPIs, commitments, timelines, and standards. The software includes tone, timing, relationships, empathy, and intent. When leaders clearly explain the facts while delivering them with care and respect, employees become more receptive to improvement. Strong leaders don't judge people—they diagnose work.  They focus on behaviors, actions, and results rather than character. They clarify expectations, provide coaching, and create frequent opportunities for alignment. In high-performing cultures, clarity isn't viewed as criticism. It is viewed as support. As the article notes, "Clarity is a kindness, and ambiguity is a burden." Employees deserve to know where they stand, what success looks like, and how to improve. When leaders provide that clarity with dignity and respect, performance conversations become growth conversations. And growth is where better results begin. Download the Performance Conversations: Hardware & Software Checklist for Leaders and learn how to have everyday performance discussions that include opportunities for growth, accountability, and stronger results.

Trust-Building Conversations

By Cathie Leimbach • June 30, 2026
Most workplace tension doesn't come from major conflicts. It comes from too few conversations. A disappointment that was never discussed. A broken agreement that was never repaired. Appreciation that was never expressed. Over time, these "withholds" create friction that slows collaboration, weakens trust, and makes even simple conversations feel difficult. The strongest teams don't avoid tension—they address it early. Research highlighted in a recent McKinsey article found that unresolved tensions can significantly reduce team effectiveness, while high-trust teams consistently outperform their peers. The difference isn't the absence of problems. It's the willingness to talk about them. One of the most practical leadership habits is creating regular opportunities for transparent interaction. That includes appreciation. People should hear what they're doing well far more often than they hear about their shortfalls. Specific, genuine recognition builds trust over time. Those trust deposits matter because once positive relationships are built, difficult conversation are more likely to accept the message . When correction is needed, reinforce that you value the person, even though they aren’t perfect. The goal is growth, not judgment. But leaders should be careful not to make appreciation transactional. If positive feedback has been absent for months, suddenly offering praise immediately before a critique usually feels insincere. Trust is built through a steady pattern of recognition, encouragement, and honest conversation—not a last-minute compliment. Transparent leaders also address issues early. Small frustrations become large resentments when left unresolved. Teams that clear the air quickly spend less energy managing tension and more energy producing results. The result? Less friction. More trust. Stronger relationships. Better performance. Because healthy conversations don't just solve problems—they strengthen the team. Free Leader Guide: 5 Practices for Trust-Building Conversations The best leaders don't wait for tension to become conflict. They build trust before it's needed. Download our 5 Practices for Trust-Building Conversations guide to learn practical ways to strengthen relationships, reduce friction, and create a culture where honest conversations lead to better performance. Download the guide and start building trust one conversation at a time.