What Are Your Employees Thinking?

Cathie Leimbach • June 21, 2022

How many times have you said, “I wish I knew what they were thinking”? Despite having the ability to make this wish come true, most of us continue to ‘wish’ instead of taking action. A simple question such as “How did you decide to do the job that way?”, would tell us what they were thinking.  

Sometimes, our frustrated ‘what was he thinking’ is the result of an employee making mistakes. At other times, we are commenting on the unique and effective approach they took. When we respond to either situation with an interest in truly understanding what influenced their actions, we build rapport with our employees and help them feel they and their ideas matter to us. We also learn what they were thinking.

When talking with an employee who has made a mistake we might ask:

  1. “What result are you wanting to get?”
  2. “How well does this result match up with what you wanted?” 
  3. “What happened that you didn’t get the result you wanted?”  “What steps did you take when doing the job?”
  4. “What can you do differently next time?” (If they don’t know how to correct the mistake, provide additional training or tools to equip them to be successful.)


When talking with someone who achieved good results in a unique way, we might ask:

  1. I noticed that you did that task differently than how you were trained, but you got the results we wanted. “Why did you do it that way?”
  2. “What are the benefits of your approach?”
  3. “What are the possible pitfalls of your approach?”

Thank them for thinking of different approaches. Verbally clarify whether they may continue doing the task their way or, if due to factors such as unacceptable risks or legal compliance, they have to follow the standard procedure.  


Both of these approaches satisfy your wish to know what your employees are thinking. In one situation you are asking the employee to evaluate their own work and to be conscious of the steps they are taking to achieve results. You are also encouraging them to problem solve. In the other, you are rewarding initiative and encouraging creative thinking while also ensuring compliance with necessary parameters. In both, you are guiding employees to achieve quality results and respecting them as valuable human beings.

The next time you are wishing you knew what an employee is thinking, make your wish come true. Ask an open-ended question, listen carefully to the answer, use follow-up questions to clarify their response, and clearly state appropriate actions going forward.  

Feedback Isn't a Download. It's a Dialogue.

By Cathie Leimbach • July 14, 2026
Most leaders know they should give feedback. Yet many avoid it. Not because they don't care, but because they worry they'll discourage someone, create conflict, or say the wrong thing. Unfortunately, when feedback is delayed, vague, or avoided, employees don't feel supported—they feel uncertain. Research highlighted in a recent McKinsey Quarterly article found that employees who receive regular, specific feedback are significantly more engaged than those who don't. The problem isn't that employees dislike feedback. They dislike feedback that feels judgmental, unclear, or disconnected from their growth. The strongest leaders understand something important: Feedback isn't a download. It's a dialogue. When leaders approach feedback as an employee development conversation rather than a list of mistakes, people become more open to hearing hard truths and more motivated to improve. Effective feedback communicates two powerful messages at the same time: I respect you. I believe you can grow. That combination changes everything. The best leaders don't simply evaluate past performance; they help employees see future potential. Rather than focusing only on what went wrong, they provide feedforward —guidance on what someone can do to become even more successful. High-performing organizations understand a simple truth: Improvement requires input. The question for leaders isn't whether to give feedback. It's whether our feedback leaves people feeling smaller—or stronger. Feedback doesn't change people. Better conversations do. Download our one-page guide: 5 Practices That Turn Feedback Into Growth Learn five practical ways to make every feedback conversation more productive, more encouraging, and more likely to inspire lasting growth. Conversation is where leadership happens

Performance Conversations: Clarity Is Kindness

By Cathie Leimbach • July 7, 2026
Most leaders want better performance. They want employees who take ownership, meet expectations, solve problems, and continue growing. Yet many leaders seldom initiate performance conversations – and when they do, it doesn’t go well. Leaders often hesitate because they fear discouraging people. Employees, meanwhile, don't know if they are missing the target. This can be costly. Research highlighted in McKinsey's Courageous Conversations article found that organizations with strong performance practices are four times more likely to outperform their peers. Yet fewer than one-third of employees believe performance reviews actually help them improve. The problem is not just a lack of performance conversations. It's a lack of clarity. The article points to a simple but powerful distinction: separate the hardware of performance from the software of performance. The hardware includes facts, goals, KPIs, commitments, timelines, and standards. The software includes tone, timing, relationships, empathy, and intent. When leaders clearly explain the facts while delivering them with care and respect, employees become more receptive to improvement. Strong leaders don't judge people—they diagnose work.  They focus on behaviors, actions, and results rather than character. They clarify expectations, provide coaching, and create frequent opportunities for alignment. In high-performing cultures, clarity isn't viewed as criticism. It is viewed as support. As the article notes, "Clarity is a kindness, and ambiguity is a burden." Employees deserve to know where they stand, what success looks like, and how to improve. When leaders provide that clarity with dignity and respect, performance conversations become growth conversations. And growth is where better results begin. Download the Performance Conversations: Hardware & Software Checklist for Leaders and learn how to have everyday performance discussions that include opportunities for growth, accountability, and stronger results.