7 Steps for Resolving Conflict Effectively

Cathie Leimbach • April 19, 2022

We all know that every individual is unique. People have diverse goals, backgrounds, education, personalities, experiences, and personal preferences. So, it shouldn’t surprise us that we often disagree on what to do or how to do it. When disagreements arise, it is important to resolve them respectfully without succumbing to heated relationship-damaging conflict.  Differences of opinion and perspective arise frequently. When they become emotionally charged, we aren’t likely to think clearly or agree on productive solutions. Consider these 7 steps for resolving conflict respectfully.


1.      Find a safe and private place to talk.

Gather in a place where only those involved in the conflict are within earshot and view of the discussion. Avoid other people gossiping or making assumptions that will complicate conflict resolution and interpersonal relationships.

 

2.      Clarify what the conflict is.

What is the disagreement about?  Be clear on what you are trying to accomplish together. Write down the common goal where everyone can see it to remind yourselves of the desired end result of your work.

 

3.      Let everyone have their say and listen actively.

Uncover the needs or factors each person feels aren’t being met by the current direction or other people’s suggestions.  Ask open-ended questions of each other to learn all the perspectives. Restate what you thought you heard to determine if you really understand their thoughts and feelings or need further explanations.  Go around the room, giving each person a chance to be heard and understood without allowing any discussion on the merits of their ideas or concerns.  

 

4.      Determine possible ways to meet the common goal.

Now that you have clarity about the common goal and have truly heard everyone’s individual perspectives, list all the options anyone can think of to accomplish the goal. Withhold discussion about the merits of any option until all options suggested are captured on a whiteboard, flipchart, or screen.

 

5.      Select the best solution.

Identify the common elements in the options. List the pros and cons of each option on flipcharts so everyone can see them. Discuss which pros will be most impactful in achieving the goal and which cons will be most detrimental.  Determine which options everyone believes are strong enough to consider further.  Explore the merits and weaknesses of these in more depth. Ask questions of each other to increase everyone’s understanding of options still on the table. Then, have every person rank the options. Drop the options which nobody or few people rank first or second.  Check if anyone wishes further discussion and then ask each person which of the remaining options are their first and second choice. Discuss the impact of the differences in the options which receive lots of votes and then come to consensus or vote on which one to implement.

 

6.      Be clear on how the chosen solution will be implemented.

What steps will be taken by whom to move forward. Write down the steps, the responsible persons, and the deadline dates. Circulate this document to all involved.

 

7.      Evaluate progress and hold each other accountable to achieving the goal.

Determine when everyone involved will meet to share their progress and address the obstacles that are encountered. Ask for help when you run into a bottleneck. Continue to schedule progress review meetings until the goal is achieved. Once the goal is achieved, or along the way, discuss and write down lessons learned and strategies for reducing future conflicts.

 

Sometimes different perspectives can be understood, options considered, and the implementation plan drafted in an hour or less. In more difficult situations, it could take multiple meetings over several days. However, as long as everyone agrees on the goal to be achieved and the goal has a meaningful impact on the organization’s results, the time is well spent. The goal will be accomplished, people will feel respected, and the foundation will be laid for ongoing group trust, engagement, and results!

Be Kind to Your Team AND Hold Them Accountable

By Cathie Leimbach • November 3, 2026
Tammy was furious. For the third day in a row, the hydraulic hose assembly line was falling behind. How could they keep customers happy when production was this slow? The target was 50 hoses per hour, with at least 98% meeting quality standards. Yet, after two hours, Tom's team had produced only 65 hoses, and six had failed inspection. Tammy marched over to Tom, the line supervisor. “This is unacceptable! You know our targets. Get your people moving!” She stormed off, frustrated and worried about falling further behind. Tom felt embarrassed and discouraged. He told his team to work faster. An hour later, production was still behind, and more hoses had failed inspection. Leadership Tip – Correct Kindly, Solve Problems Together Corrective action doesn't need to be harsh. A calm, respectful conversation can improve both performance and trust. Clarify the gap. Remind the employee of the agreed expectation and describe what you've observed. “Tom, our target is 50 hoses per hour, with 98% meeting standards. Your team produced 65 in two hours, and six failed inspection.” Explore causes and solutions together. Ask, “What's getting in the way?” Listen carefully. Perhaps a crimping machine needs adjustment or a new employee needs coaching. Ask, “What could we do differently? How can I help?” Agree on next steps. Ask Tom to summarize what he'll do. State what you'll do to support him. Agree on when you'll review progress. Bottom Line Kindness doesn't mean lowering expectations. It means helping people meet them. Conversation is Where Leadership Happens™ Be kind. Be clear. Hold people accountable. Have a conversation you’ve been putting off because you don’t want to sound harsh—or let the issue slide? Bring it to the Workplace Conversations Clinic on November 16 to discuss addressing the problem with kindness, setting clear expectations, and agreeing on next steps. Reserve your spot for the November 16 Workplace Conversations Clinic → HERE

Everyone Noticed. No One Said Anything.

By Cathie Leimbach • October 27, 2026
“The same production line’s data is late again,” someone said. “Are we just supposed to keep begging for it?” Maya looked up. Two employees had stopped their own work to help track down the data missing from the weekly report to headquarters. She knew there had been delays. She hadn’t paid attention to how often or what happened when the data came in late. Each Friday, John sent the report out, and Maya moved on. Her team hadn’t moved on. They were tired of disrupting their own work to address the same problem week after week. The Symptom Late work. Repeated mistakes. People asking why they should bother when others don’t do their part. When there is a pattern of leaders letting missed deadlines slide, employees notice. Silence can leave people thinking that missed commitments are acceptable, even when that isn’t what the leader intends. Monitoring performance gives leaders a clearer picture of what is happening—and something specific to discuss with those involved. The Tip Here are three steps to noticing problems and sharing your performance concerns. Track the data. Look at information tied to the work, such as deadlines and errors. Maya could track how often data for the weekly reports arrived late. Walk around. Spend time where the work happens. Notice what people are doing and how one person’s work affects another’s. Maya saw two employees put their work aside to finish someone else’s task. Share what you find. Bring the facts and your observations to the attention of the person involved. Maya could say: “Your weekly production data was submitted late three of the last four weeks. Today, I saw Lee and Sam stop their work to get the raw data and do the analysis.” That makes it clear to the employee that submitting data late is not acceptable. Conversation is Where Leadership Happens™ Is there a pattern at your workplace that you’ve noticed but haven’t addressed? Join our Workplace Conversations Clinic on November 16 to discuss addressing performance concerns. Bring a situation you’ve been letting slide. Reserve your place HERE