Engage Your Employees with Conversational Feedback

Cathie Leimbach • February 15, 2022

Conversational feedback is very effective at improving employee engagement. Yet, leaders often give their employees too little helpful feedback. When we rarely catch our team members doing things right and acknowledge their positive contributions, they aren’t sure if they are meeting expectations. And, when we don’t let them know what we wish them to do differently, how are they to realize improvement is required?


Even when we provide feedback, we not be encouraging them to repeat positive behaviors and to work towards improving their performance in weaker areas. Managers may tell employees they did a good job assisting customer Jones but if the feedback isn’t specific the employee doesn’t know which aspects of their customer interaction should be repeated and may not realize the positive impact of quality customer service. On the other hand, when employees don’t meet our expectations, if they don’t realize there is a need for improvement and don’t ‘hear’ and internalize our suggestions for improvement, they likely won’t become reliable high performers.


We are seven times as likely to remember something we say than something we just heard. Also, we have to hear, see, or say information several times before we will act on it. Therefore, when leaders and their employees have conversations about the team member’s performance, good performance gets repeated and areas that need improvement get addressed.


Let’s explore what conversational feedback looks like. Positive feedback has the most impact when it is shared in a live conversation. In-person is ideal with a video call or phone call being next best. The leader’s tone and body language tell the employee if their manager is simply going through the motions of showing appreciation or if her thank you is authentic. Only heart-felt thanks spurs an employee to make a habit of doing quality work. The most effective positive feedback is expressed promptly after the good work is noticed, names the specific behavior that is appreciated, and shares the impact of the employee’s action.


Highly effective corrective action involves two-way collaborative conversation. The manager briefly and calmly states the action or behavior that failed to meet expectations. Then he asks the employee questions to encourage self-realization about what caused the unfavorable situation and the impact this has on the people involved and on the organization. The employee is asked to suggest ways to correct the situation and is provided the support needed to improve performance. When the manager and the employee develop corrective action plans together the employee has a better understanding of what is expected and is usually more motivated to address the challenge at hand.


When employees feel that their good performance is valued and receive support to overcome their challenges, they become more engaged, increasing their satisfaction and the company’s success. Conversational feedback is the foundation of win/win/win workplace experiences, increasing employee morale, customer satisfaction, and company results. 


What can you do this month to develop your conversational feedback skills? You may be interested in enhancing your leadership skills through Conversational Management™.   

Listening Is Key to Effective One-on-Ones

By Cathie Leimbach • September 15, 2026
Tom walked into his one-on-one feeling relieved. For a week, he had been struggling with two critical assignments. His supervisor had delegated them without much context, and Tom wasn’t clear about the desired results or how to get started. Surely, he thought, we can sort this out today. Fifteen minutes later, Tom walked back to his desk just as confused. His supervisor had done nearly all the talking—reviewing priorities, sharing updates, and reminding Tom that the two assignments were important. But he never asked the question Tom needed to hear: “What do you need from me to be successful?” When One-on-Ones Become One-Way Conversations This happens more often than we might think. Leaders enter one-on-ones with a list of things they need to communicate. They talk through the list, ask if there are any questions, and move on to the next meeting. But a one-on-one should do more than transfer information. Its purpose is to help the employee succeed. That requires conversation—and conversation requires listening. Ask what the employee wants to discuss. Listen for what is getting in the way. Do they need clearer expectations? More training? Better resources? Help making a decision? Encouragement that they are headed in the right direction? Then determine together what each of you will do next. Try This in Your Next One-on-One Instead of starting with your agenda, begin with one simple question: “What would be most helpful for us to talk about today?” Then listen. You may discover that the most valuable thing you contribute to the meeting isn’t what you say. It’s what you learn. Conversation is Where Leadership Happens™ If this has you thinking about the conversations you have with your team, join me at the Workplace Conversation Clinic on September 21 . Bring a question about your one-on-ones or a conversation you’re finding difficult, and let’s work through it together. RESERVE YOUR SPOT HERE

Are you Supporting Your Employees to Overcome Hurdles?

By Cathie Leimbach • September 8, 2026
For weeks, Mary had been frustrated with frequently occurring delays in shipping. During her one-on-one with her supervisor, she finally told him what was going on. He listened, asked questions, and said he would look into it. She left the meeting feeling encouraged. Maybe this situation would finally get resolved. A week later, her supervisor started their one-on-one by asking “So, what do you want to talk about today?” He didn’t mention what he had learned about the problem in shipping. “Of course not!,” she thought. “Nothing is going to change.” So, she sadly replied, “Nothing really. Everything’s fine.” Sometimes employees stop talking because experience has taught them that speaking up doesn’t make any difference. One-on-ones are an opportunity to change that. Give the employee a voice in what gets discussed. Help them address bottlenecks. Follow-up on your to dos from the conversation. It can be as simple as: “Last week we talked about the shipping problem. I checked into it, and here’s what I found out. A possible solution would be this .... How do think that might work? ... What other ideas do you have?” The message is clear: I heard you. I remembered. What you have to say matters. And when employees believe their concerns and ideas matter, they’re more likely to keep speaking up. Conversation is Where Leadership Happens™ What Workplace Conversation Are You Struggling With? Maybe an employee has stopped talking. Maybe you’re dealing with accountability, conflict, attendance, performance—or simply a conversation you’re not quite sure how to approach. Bring it to the FREE Workplace Conversations Clinic on September 21. Join Cathie Leimbach and other leaders to talk through real workplace people challenges, hear different perspectives, and get ideas for moving forward. Register Here