Appreciation is Essential

Cathie Leimbach • October 18, 2022

Human beings are emotional beings. For emotional and mental health, we require affirmation that we are valued as a person.  To be engaged at work, we also need to know that we are valued for the contributions we make to the organization’s success.  Yet, studies show that 40 to 65% of the workforce has not felt appreciated at work in the past year. 

When employees don’t FEEL appreciated and valued at work, they are 5 times as likely to be disengaged, 74% more likely to be looking for another job, and 27% more likely to be struggling in their personal life. The resulting depression and poor workplace productivity lead to lower self-esteem, poorer quality relationships, and declining physical health.

Many leaders think they are showing appreciation, yet their employees aren’t feeling valued. Generally this is because we, as leaders, aren’t being intentional enough in how we recognize our team members.

Effective recognition is not everyone getting a standard gift on their 5th anniversary at the company or being chosen as this week’s recipient of their supervisor’s thank you note through the company’s digital peer-appreciation portal.   Effective appreciation is fulfilling, authentic, equitable, and personalized.

Fulfilling – Appreciation involves feeling. The method of showing appreciation must help the recipient feel valued and fulfilled. Different people value different forms of appreciation differently. Discover which of the following mean the most to each team member and thank them accordingly. Is it words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, or physical touch?

Authentic – Leaders must truly believe in the recognition they are giving their employees. Through the leader’s body language, tone of voice, and everyday attitude towards employees, team members discern whether their leader is being sincere Only sincere appreciation helps employees feel valued.

Equitable – Everyone deserves frequent and honest appreciation and feedback. It is effective to recognize different people in different ways to suit their preferences.  However, it is not okay to recognize some people daily and ignore others altogether. If you have an employee who truly is not adding any value in the workplace nor exhibiting any positive behaviors, why are they on your payroll?

Personalized – When you are recognizing an individual, be specific about a way they had energy to the team or a recent time they completed an important project very well and on time. Don’t simply point out that their team gets good results. Let them know that you are paying enough attention to them that you see something they are personally contributing.

To lead with excellence, leaders need to be worthy of followers. Showing appreciation to every team member so they Feel valued is an essential aspect of leadership. 

Which of the 4 characteristics of effective appreciation are you already doing well? Which aspect will you focus on improving this week?  

They Can't Read Your Mind. Tell Them You Appreciate Them.

By Cathie Leimbach • October 13, 2026
"I thought you knew I appreciated your work." Kate hadn't planned to say those words in a one-to-one. But when a team member told her, "I'm never quite sure whether you think I'm doing a good job," she was caught off guard. He was someone she relied on. He helped new colleagues settle in, handled difficult customers calmly, and often spotted problems before they got bigger. Of course she valued him. Then she tried to remember the last time she'd told him, and what she'd actually said. There was a quick "Thanks, everyone" at the end of a meeting. A "Great work" in a team email. But she couldn't recall ever telling him what she had noticed about his contribution. Kate had been worried about rising absences and a team that seemed less involved. Praise wouldn't explain or fix every issue. Still, this conversation raised a question she hadn't considered: how many people on her team were feeling their efforts weren’t noticed or appreciated? It's easy to assume people know we appreciate them, especially the ones who quietly get on with the job. We turn our attention to whatever needs fixing, and we don’t acknowledge the people who are doing good work. Meanwhile, people who never receive thanks start to wonder if they are noticed, pull back, stop offering their ideas, and start job hunting elsewhere. Try this week: Look for one contribution each person on your team is making . Tell them what you notice about their work and why it matters. Instead of simply saying, "Good job," try: "Thanks for staying ten minutes past shift change to walk Jamie through the new changeover on Line 3. She now knows exactly what to do instead of guessing." Three elements of meaningful praise are: Be specific. Name what they did and the effect it had. Keep it natural and proportionate. A quiet word can mean a lot. Recognition doesn’t have to be in front of the whole team. Let it stand on its own. Don’t add a "but" or a new request right after the positive feedback. Sincere, specific praise helps people feel seen. It builds rapport because you're showing you notice how they contribute, not just whether the task got done. And people are more likely to speak up and share ideas when they feel heard and connected to the people they work with.  Conversation is Where Leadership Happens™ How often does your appreciation go unspoken? Join our Workplace Conversations Clinic on October 19, 3:00 to 3:30 PM, live on Zoom. You'll practice giving praise that feels natural and helps people feel valued. You'll also have the chance to practice other difficult workplace conversations, from raising concerns to working through disagreements. Reserve your place here!

“All Good” is Never a Good Response

By Cathie Leimbach • October 6, 2026
“All good,” they said. But Sarah wasn’t so sure. In the team meeting, just two people did most of the talking. Team members who once offered ideas just waited for the meeting to end. Three people called in 'sick' on the day of our monthly planning and progress-review meeting. Today was just another day with her disengaged team. Sarah realized that whenever she asked others how things were going, she got the same response: “All good.” It never failed that within a day or two of what seemed like positive feedback, a problem surfaced. It might be that they didn't know how to proceed with a new project. Or they were trying to hide a mistake they made. Things definitely were not "All Good". Then, she thought about the questions she usually asked. “Everything on track?” “Will that be ready by Friday?” She wanted to know how her people were progressing with their work. But she had asked closed-ended questions, so she got brief responses that told her nothing. At her next one-to-one, she asked, “How have things been for you lately?” “Fine. Busy.” She almost moved on. But, instead, she dug a bit deeper. “What’s been making things especially busy?” This time, the answer was different. There were competing demands she hadn’t known about. A concern that had gone unspoken. And a feeling that nobody really talked anymore unless they needed help with something urgent. This one conversation provided important information. It gave her a place to start moving forward to improve engagement and results. If you can relate to Sarah's struggles, here are some tips to help you stay on top of how your employees' work is truly going. Absenteeism and disengagement can have many causes. We can't begin to understand them by accepting thoughtless answers. We need to create an environment where people feel comfortable sharing what’s really happening. Interpersonal rapport is essential. It grows through small moments: asking a thoughtful question, listening without rushing to solve a concern, remembering what someone said, and checking back. This week, try asking a couple of specific open-ended questions such as: “What’s been going well for you?" And "What’s been difficult?” Let the answers guide your next questions. Give the person room to share. Then, a few days later, follow up. “You mentioned the client report deadline was going to be hard to meet. How’s it going?” Then, "What help do you need?" When you take a few minutes for such check-ins, employees feel more supported than if you just ask, “How are you?”, as you are walking by. It indicates: I heard your concern. I remembered. I’m interested. I want you to succeed. Your team members are more likely to get involved, be honest with you, and share ideas when they feel heard and connected to the people they work with. Want to get more comfortable starting those conversations? Join our Workplace Conversations Clinic on October 19 to practice building interpersonal rapport through conversations that matter.  Reserve your place → [registration link]