Appreciation is Essential

Cathie Leimbach • October 18, 2022

Human beings are emotional beings. For emotional and mental health, we require affirmation that we are valued as a person.  To be engaged at work, we also need to know that we are valued for the contributions we make to the organization’s success.  Yet, studies show that 40 to 65% of the workforce has not felt appreciated at work in the past year. 

When employees don’t FEEL appreciated and valued at work, they are 5 times as likely to be disengaged, 74% more likely to be looking for another job, and 27% more likely to be struggling in their personal life. The resulting depression and poor workplace productivity lead to lower self-esteem, poorer quality relationships, and declining physical health.

Many leaders think they are showing appreciation, yet their employees aren’t feeling valued. Generally this is because we, as leaders, aren’t being intentional enough in how we recognize our team members.

Effective recognition is not everyone getting a standard gift on their 5th anniversary at the company or being chosen as this week’s recipient of their supervisor’s thank you note through the company’s digital peer-appreciation portal.   Effective appreciation is fulfilling, authentic, equitable, and personalized.

Fulfilling – Appreciation involves feeling. The method of showing appreciation must help the recipient feel valued and fulfilled. Different people value different forms of appreciation differently. Discover which of the following mean the most to each team member and thank them accordingly. Is it words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts, or physical touch?

Authentic – Leaders must truly believe in the recognition they are giving their employees. Through the leader’s body language, tone of voice, and everyday attitude towards employees, team members discern whether their leader is being sincere Only sincere appreciation helps employees feel valued.

Equitable – Everyone deserves frequent and honest appreciation and feedback. It is effective to recognize different people in different ways to suit their preferences.  However, it is not okay to recognize some people daily and ignore others altogether. If you have an employee who truly is not adding any value in the workplace nor exhibiting any positive behaviors, why are they on your payroll?

Personalized – When you are recognizing an individual, be specific about a way they had energy to the team or a recent time they completed an important project very well and on time. Don’t simply point out that their team gets good results. Let them know that you are paying enough attention to them that you see something they are personally contributing.

To lead with excellence, leaders need to be worthy of followers. Showing appreciation to every team member so they Feel valued is an essential aspect of leadership. 

Which of the 4 characteristics of effective appreciation are you already doing well? Which aspect will you focus on improving this week?  

Listening Is Key to Effective One-on-Ones

By Cathie Leimbach • September 15, 2026
Tom walked into his one-on-one feeling relieved. For a week, he had been struggling with two critical assignments. His supervisor had delegated them without much context, and Tom wasn’t clear about the desired results or how to get started. Surely, he thought, we can sort this out today. Fifteen minutes later, Tom walked back to his desk just as confused. His supervisor had done nearly all the talking—reviewing priorities, sharing updates, and reminding Tom that the two assignments were important. But he never asked the question Tom needed to hear: “What do you need from me to be successful?” When One-on-Ones Become One-Way Conversations This happens more often than we might think. Leaders enter one-on-ones with a list of things they need to communicate. They talk through the list, ask if there are any questions, and move on to the next meeting. But a one-on-one should do more than transfer information. Its purpose is to help the employee succeed. That requires conversation—and conversation requires listening. Ask what the employee wants to discuss. Listen for what is getting in the way. Do they need clearer expectations? More training? Better resources? Help making a decision? Encouragement that they are headed in the right direction? Then determine together what each of you will do next. Try This in Your Next One-on-One Instead of starting with your agenda, begin with one simple question: “What would be most helpful for us to talk about today?” Then listen. You may discover that the most valuable thing you contribute to the meeting isn’t what you say. It’s what you learn. Conversation is Where Leadership Happens™ If this has you thinking about the conversations you have with your team, join me at the Workplace Conversation Clinic on September 21 . Bring a question about your one-on-ones or a conversation you’re finding difficult, and let’s work through it together. RESERVE YOUR SPOT HERE

Are you Supporting Your Employees to Overcome Hurdles?

By Cathie Leimbach • September 8, 2026
For weeks, Mary had been frustrated with frequently occurring delays in shipping. During her one-on-one with her supervisor, she finally told him what was going on. He listened, asked questions, and said he would look into it. She left the meeting feeling encouraged. Maybe this situation would finally get resolved. A week later, her supervisor started their one-on-one by asking “So, what do you want to talk about today?” He didn’t mention what he had learned about the problem in shipping. “Of course not!,” she thought. “Nothing is going to change.” So, she sadly replied, “Nothing really. Everything’s fine.” Sometimes employees stop talking because experience has taught them that speaking up doesn’t make any difference. One-on-ones are an opportunity to change that. Give the employee a voice in what gets discussed. Help them address bottlenecks. Follow-up on your to dos from the conversation. It can be as simple as: “Last week we talked about the shipping problem. I checked into it, and here’s what I found out. A possible solution would be this .... How do think that might work? ... What other ideas do you have?” The message is clear: I heard you. I remembered. What you have to say matters. And when employees believe their concerns and ideas matter, they’re more likely to keep speaking up. Conversation is Where Leadership Happens™ What Workplace Conversation Are You Struggling With? Maybe an employee has stopped talking. Maybe you’re dealing with accountability, conflict, attendance, performance—or simply a conversation you’re not quite sure how to approach. Bring it to the FREE Workplace Conversations Clinic on September 21. Join Cathie Leimbach and other leaders to talk through real workplace people challenges, hear different perspectives, and get ideas for moving forward. Register Here